I self-identified as a Tomboy for all of my young life!
Why you may ask?
Because my mom told me, all of the time, that she was a tomboy as a kid!
I thought my mom was the coolest… so I thought I better be a tomboy too.
Clearly, there was something intrinsically wrong with acting like a girl!
I was very athletic (just like my mom) and enjoyed playing sports much more with the boys than with the girls. They could throw better, run faster and there seemed to be a lot less bullshit on the playing field.
Looking back on my early tomboy years, I realize that I thought girls were sort of dumb… they screamed and screeched about things, stayed mad about stuff for weeks or months, and fought nasty, gossipy fights.
These beliefs did not set me up to embrace my feminine side very well!
Through high school I had a few good girl friends, but again I spent most of my free time with my guy friends. I used to refer to myself and my three best girlfriends (Heather, Candace & Cheryl) as Girl-Guys… ‘Hot chicks with an 18 year old party dude alive & well inside of them.’
If I am being honest… I did not trust girly girls at all. I cultivated my own persona to lean much more toward the masculine. I lived to play sports, take no bullshit, say what I mean, work hard, and not be scared of anything. These are definitely not exclusively male traits… but in my teenage mind, they sure were!
I think my ‘tomboy’ first softened when I became a mom… I was in awe that the female body could produce, feed and nurture a baby… it seemed like the best part, that I had found so far, about being a girl.
However, I was a boy mom to two rough and tumble dudes and then a decade later a boy step-mom to another pair of active little guys. This allowed me to still spend most of my time hanging out in tomboy mode.
Twenty years ago I began to realize that there was an imbalance going on within me… I was a girl, but I did not really see the full value of embracing my feminine energy. At the time, I was running my ‘Sweet as can Bee’ toffee factory with my dear friend, Gloria. We worked together, left our husbands together, and lived together for almost a year.
She was the closest female friendship that I had ever experienced and I trusted her with my life. She is definitely a Girl-Guy too… but was amazing at going with the flow.
As I was busy trying to control and push against things… she was busy accepting things as they were and flowing towards a solution!
Her way looked a shitload easier!
This was also the time period when I first started to dive into self-help books, began studying alternative medicine and embracing my ability to see energy fields.
I quickly realized that the more I tapped into my feminine side… the better I was at my healing modalities, the management of my company and my personal relationships.
Maybe there WAS something to this girly thing??
In 2013, when I started teaching my ‘Breath Therapy’ classes, I began to openly speak about energy flows, healing the body with breath, and balancing the masculine and feminine energies within us. My classes were filled with beautiful women that became my friends and helped me to realize that being a full grown mature woman was the most amazingly powerful person that I have ever been.
I now cultivate my feminine energies daily… As soon as my eyes pop open in the morning I say, out loud, three things that I am grateful for and then tap into my intuition and guides asking for an act of self-care that will serve me best during this day… A sauna, nature walk, yoga, or maybe a chocolate chip cookie!
I have also spent the past year reading numerous books about the fall of feminine power during the rise of Christianity 2000 years ago. My favourite part in one of these books was a proverb from an isolated tribe in the Amazon rainforest.
They speak of a bird which flies with one wing only… it’s masculine wing. The bird flies in ever widening concentric circles 🌀unaware that it is stuck in a holding pattern. As feminine energy rises on earth, during this century and the bird unfurls its other wing… the proverb states “who knows how high and far the bird can now fly with both wings open and its masculine and feminine energies in balance?”
I freakin’ love that! ❤️ It speaks to a balance where all beings and all energies are considered equal and important.
Here’s a list of ways to cultivate your feminine energies:
Our ‘Womb Chakra Activation’ class at Breath Therapy on Wed. Dec. 11th! We will be tapping into your deep feminine energies and bringing balance to all of your systems. Click HERE for more info!
Practice Self-Care Rituals: Create routines that nurture your body and mind, such as skincare, baths, or aromatherapy.
Connect with Your Intuition: Meditate, journal, or engage in quiet reflection to strengthen your inner guidance.
Embrace Creativity: Explore artistic pursuits like painting, writing, dancing, or crafting.
Honor Your Emotions: Allow yourself to feel and express emotions without judgment.
Cultivate Receptivity: Practice active listening and openness in conversations and relationships.
Spend Time in Nature: Ground yourself by walking barefoot, gardening, or sitting in natural settings.
Engage in Sensual Practices: Connect with your senses through activities like mindful eating, wearing soft fabrics, or enjoying essential oils.
Prioritize Rest and Relaxation: Honor your need for rest by balancing productivity with downtime.
Practice Embodiment: Explore yoga, dance, or other movement that connects you with your physical self.
Build a Supportive Sisterhood: Spend time with other women to share experiences and encourage mutual growth.
Explore Feminine Archetypes: Study mythological or historical figures that embody different feminine qualities.
Balance Energies: Work with your chakras, particularly the sacral and heart chakras, to enhance your feminine flow.
Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say no and prioritize self-respect.
Nurture Others: Cultivate a sense of care and compassion in your relationships.
Honor Cycles: Tune into your menstrual cycle or other natural rhythms and align activities accordingly.
Being a tomboy was a lot of fun as a kid… but I am sure happy that I found my way to my girly side as well. The balance fills me with a sense of security and an ability to go with the flow that has made my life feel pretty darn awesome! ❤️
Much love,
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